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The city newspaper reported that almost seven out of 10 sets of parents hit their children in Mumbai. Across India, 65% parents admit they are not averse to spanking their kids. A child who is nurtured in the womb and soon after in the initial years is subjected to corporal punishment. Really!

The first eye opener was when I read about the baby who was only 3 months old and had multiple injuries on her head and the hospitals reported that it was not a case of any accident but the child was beaten up. The other later confessed on her hitting her child with the fear of her husband who was extremely particular about things and kept a close watch on her.The Supreme Court had banned corporal punishment in schools in 2000 while the Right to Education Act reiterated the ban recently. ?Read our story on Stay at Home vs. Working mom who is happier here. A?survey by a well-known education group in Mumbai was carried out across 10 cities including Mumbai, Pune, Surat, Ahmedabad, Chennai and Bangalore.

The survey reports:

1. Mothers ? 77% across India and in Mumbai ? were found most liable to raise their hands against children.

2. Housewives came across as the harshest though it is usually believed that they have more time to dedicate to their kids than mothers juggling family life with a job.

3. ?What was shocking was that spanking of children was more evident in the cities than in the rural areas.

4. The survey also shows that in most cases, stay-at-home mothers end up resorting to physical punishment for their children,? said Swati Popat Vats, director of Podar Jumbo Kids.

5. ?84% of the 4,022 parents who were part of the survey were not in agreement on any kind of physical punishment but felt helpless most of the times.

6. 65% parents agreed that they hit their children, why 68% parents in Mumbai agreed to doing so.

7. One of the main reasons why they hit their child was when the child irritated them and they lost their cool. ?In most of the responding households, the fathers were working full time and their absence from home left the mothers to take the responsibility of disciplining the children. It often led to spanking to gain control,? added Vats.

School principals across the city often end up counselling parents on how to discipline their children. ?So many parents have ended up thrashing their children in front of my eyes and we had to intervene,? said Lalitha Hariharan, principal of Rizvi Springfield School, Bandra (W). ?Parents are always frustrated but they need to find alternative ways of disciplining their children. Hitting children does not put across the point. Instead, children end up rebelling against their parents.?

Parents? associations in the city too are worried about the rising trend. ?Everybody loses their cool and often parents come to us and ask help in counselling their children when, in fact, they need counselling too,? said Lata Nair, vice-president of PTA United Forum.

Questions that I ponder over:

1. Why are parents losing their cool?

2. Why are the kids getting indisciplined if we watch them so closely

3. Do kids need their moms all the time. Being with your child all the time do you feel ties down and reduce the active parenting time.

4. Do women who give up their careers due to lack of inadequate child care facilities feel the pressure even more. Read our story on Losing your identity to motherhood here

5. We are not okay with teachers hitting our children then how does it give us a right to do that. Read our story on Teachers Punsih children here

6. With an active social life, gadgets and increasing peer pressure are we getting impatient

I would love to know your responses on the increasing impatience in mothers and impact on children. Please do share your feedback in the comments below or on our Facebook page here.

Image & Content Source: Times of India

Source: http://www.kidsstoppress.com/2012/11/stay-at-home-mothers-hit-their-kids-most-often-do-you-agree/

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